“I don’t agree with those who plunge headlong into the middle of the flood and who, accepting a turbulent life, struggling daily in great spirit and difficult circumstances. The wise person will endure that, but won’t choose it-choosing to be at peace, rather than at war.”
-Seneca, Moral Letters, 28.7
Become at peace with your current circumstances so that you can gain the clarity and confidence to change them.
Lots of people who are upset with their current circumstances will fill their time up with activities to distract themselves from tough realities they may face. Many of those distractions may even be harmful to the recipient. An incredible amount of people may partake in self-harming activities mostly to distract themselves from harsh realities. Really think about how much time you waste becoming and maintaining as an alcoholic. If only that person mustered up the strength and had been honest enough with themselves to say: if I dedicated my energy towards growth every single day my life would be filled with opportunities one year down the road. Instead, they lie to themselves, hit the bottle, and sulk in their own despair. I am generalizing but the point made is strong. Self-inflicted harm for distraction is the easy way out but most certainly comes at the highest cost.
Take the higher road every time, as the feeling knowing you did the right thing for you and the people around you is like no other. A life knowing you made the best out of any situation is truly a life worth living.